Online dating: just like dating in the real world
I’ve decided to leave the online dating world for a while. I’ve deactivated my profiles but not deleted them entirely because I’m fickle and I’m sure I’ll be back. My reasons for leaving are simple: I haven’t met anyone in my age range who was decent and who wanted to get to know me. My profile is friendly, I have pictures up that don’t scare young children, I come across as well spoken and funny (I think) yet only men old enough to be my father express interest, and to be honest, after the 25th man in his 40s or 50s sends you a virtual rose, while the guys your age check out your profile and keep stepping, you really have to evaluate if this is good for your self esteem. My conclusion was that it is not.
Deep down I know that one reason for my lack of success is that I am not physically what guys are looking for in a girlfriend or spouse (read: I’m fat! Not chubby or chunky but plain fat!). The simple solution is to change this aspect of myself, especially since it’s something I don’t like about myself, but it’s not easy. I know it’s possible but it seems also impossible. Maybe I should see if I qualify for gastric bypass surgery ;)
(I hate pain too much to ever consider voluntary surgery o!)
I’m glad I posted pictures though, and was honest about what I look like because the last thing I would want is to develop feelings for someone and vice versa, only to have them fizzle when we meet in person due to lack of physical attraction. This is why I’m such a strong advocate of posting honest (and most important, recent) pictures of yourself on dating sites. No one wants a nasty surprise.
(And since I’m feeling so bloody miserable (ok, now I’m just being dramatic) the least you could do is click on this entry, then click one of of the appropriate links. Maybe winning a new template would cheer me up!)
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