Body issues


So, let’s talk about our bodies.

I’m generalizing again, but I know a lot of Nigerian women who are proud of their bodies: big or small, stick thin with no breasts or voluptuous with gravity-defying cleavage, I have talked to women who like their bodies.

How have I determined that they like their bodies? Well, they dress in ways that highlight their (best) features, they spend a lot of time doing things to ensure their body looks its best, from getting their hair “did”, keeping the eyebrows groomed, refusing to leave the house without makeup, dressing in clothing that is sharp…you get the idea.

And then there’s me: I dress like a 40 year old woman whose primary goal is to hover in the background and who wears clothing because she lives in a country where the cold will kill you if you don’t dress for it. My criteria for buying an article of clothing is: does it fit? and does it cover up my cleavage/flabby arms/stomach? When I was younger I spent time searching for the perfect fitting jeans (do they exist?) and I used to dream of wearing shoes that combine sexy and comfort, but my feet are size 11 and wide so with the exception of Payless Shoes, I’m generally out of luck when it comes to wearing sexy shoes. I shouldn’t even confess this but I have worn my father’s winter boots out because they were comfortable!

(I know, call Stacy and Clinton already!)

All of that to say that I dress like someone who just doesn’t care. Admittedly, there aren’t many shops in my area that make stylish clothing and cater to plus size women but I could at least try, right?

So, I resolve to care. I resolve to put all those accessories I can’t stop buying—hair bands, earrings, rings, necklaces—to good use. I resolve to wear the minimum in makeup—mascara or lip gloss at the very least—every day. I resolve to select my clothing the night before to avoid looking like I threw something together five minutes before I have to leave the house (which is in fact what I do). I should get fitted for a bra. I resolve to get some pants that fit well and don’t just look baggy.

And shoes! God knows how much I need shoes that aren’t mens hiking boots (blame the winter o! I have nice warmer weather shoes.)

What else must a stylish Naija girl have at her disposal? This is your chance to help out the fashionably challenged!


2 Responses to “Body issues”

  1. LMAO!! The first thing that popped in my head was “OOH sounds like a job for stacy and clinton”…and then I saw that you mentioned them lol

    Have you considered online shopping? Lane Bryant, Torrid, Ashley Stewart, Zappos…etc.

    Here’s a blog you might be interested in:

  2. I think dressing nice boosts one’s self esteem.

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